Saturday, 8 September 2012

#2: Resolving Interpersonal Conflict



Each head is a world; this phrase is a very famous Mexican expression that we used to refer that every person is different and they have diverse opinion about one topic and we need to listen every opinion to create a better idea.

My story begin in my first year of my career, I found a lot of new friends in my school most of them are from different countries like Ecuador, Dominican Republic, Colombia, etc… so in that time one of my best friends (V) was foreign, we started to spend a lot of time together inside and outside of the school (we study the same career). We had very good moments together. To the point that we decided be roommates.

However we started having problems. We were team in all of our modules that we shared, each team should consists of  3-4 people, so when we had to do some team activities “V” always had few activities to do but also she selected the parts that are less time to do. At first was fine for me, but when I realized that all the time "V" had not done her work in time, and she always told me that I ought to help her to finish her part, because we are friend, and the friends all the time support. I was very surprised and I decided to talk to her and tell her that she needs to differentiate the friendship and the work, because there are two different things, it’s true that friends can help us in diverse situation but not all the time and not with all the things at the same time it’s true that everyone need to work hard to get what you want.

I think we should have never talked about it because "V" change their attitude towards me, at first she started letting be part of my team, then she left to spend time with me at the point that she now does not talk with me. However the next semester will be the last semester for the both and I wish I could talk with her to remember the old days. Do you think it's a good  idea? If it is, how can I start to talk whit she?





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  1. I think it was good of you to explain to her the importance of commitment and work and that one should not take friends' good faith for granted. It's a lesson V needs to learn before she starts working.

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    1. However, do you recommend me to speak with V this last semester?

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